Making friends at school was easy.
But once you’re all grown up, it gets way harder – especially if you’ve just moved to a new city.
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Thankfully, social science has figured out a few of the ways that adult friendships form.
In the 1950s, sociologists discovered three factors that are necessary for making friends:
WHEN YOU’RE A GROWN-UP
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Proximity You should be near one another. |
Unplanned Reactions You run into each other even when you don’t schedule it. |
Privacy You’re in situations where you can confide in one another. |
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| GET OUT OF THE OFFICE |
Open-office d
esigns have become popular, but they get in the way of relationship building.
Susan Cain, author of “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking,” says open-office workers have fewer personal and confidential conversations with colleagues and are often socially distant, quick to anger, aggressive, and slow to help others.
| BECOME A REGULAR AT YOUR FAVORITE SPOTS |
The key is to spend time with the same people. People feel a preference for people or things simply because they are familiar.
If you run into the same people, again and again, you’ll grow comfortable with one another and start forming a bond.
| GO OUT AND DO ACTIVITIES YOU LIKE |
Whether it’s indoor climbing, yoga, or a spin class, leave your house and do an activity you’re crazy about.
Arrange your life in a way that puts you in the company of an ever-changing group of people that you’ll have time to
| MAKE PEOPLE FEEL LIKE THEY MATTER |
Friends like to feel acknowledged and valued.
If you never ask your friends for favors, they don’t get the satisfaction of feeling needed by you.
| GO OUT AND EAT WITH YOUR COLLEAGUES |
When you’re no longer surrounded by people you sort of know, you can go beyond small talk and delve into the real stuff: the meaning of life, whether there’s a god, and whether you should drink whiskey neat or on the rocks.
| EXCHANGE CONFIDENCES |
Small talk is boring and stifles relationships. Sustained, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure helps in the development of a close relationship. Be open and just a bit vulnerable.
| HAVE RIDICULOUS SHARED EXPERIENCES |
Do something out of your comfort zone with people you barely know or don’t know at all.
Whether it’s skydiving or going through Tough Mudder, it’ll be an experience to remember.
| GET IN TOUCH WITH PEOPLE YOU USED TO KNOW |
Social scientists call people we used to know “dormant ties.” These are people we have fallen out of touch with — we moved, changed jobs, got busy — dormant ties are fun to hang out with and can bring career opportunities.
